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05 Aug, 2007

Why are some people such @$$h*l3s?

Posted by: velveteen In: Irritations

You know the ones.

The ones who “claim” that they were just trying to “help” or who have their two cents worth of advise that you actually didn’t even ask for?

I’m a nice person, generally speaking.  BUT, I can be pretty b*tchy if provoked hard enough.  Maybe that’s being too hard on myself.  I just don’t take a lot of real, honest to goodness CRAP from people, I have a low threshold in that respect.  Do you blame me?  If there is one thing I have always been able to do it’s stand up for myself and SAY something when I’ve been insulted or wronged.

Maybe not always.  OK,  I’ve had moments of weakness where I couldn’t say something or didn’t know what to say or let someone take advantage of me.  But then, I’ve always been able to “get back” eventually.

I wrote a message on the expat forum asking if someone wanted to go to WW with me, as I wrote a few days ago.  I was extremely happy to see that someone responded positively and I’ve made my plans to meet them, etc.  Someone else comes along and writes this::

If it’s any help, remember that you are evolved from a plains ape.

That means you evolved around a diet that constists mostly of stems, leaves and shoots, a few roots, and a small amount of fruit and seeds/nuts. The meat content would have been small, and more like grubs, and the odd baby bird. Seafood would be a good modern equivalent.

I started out at 280 pounds and after about 3 year’s hard work I’m down to 185, with another 5 to lose.

I started with Atkins, which worked very well, but obviously isn’t something you want to do for the whole of your life. However, the bonus was that it gave me a ferocious taste for green veg.

You need to understand a couple of things, IMO. You are a foodaholic, and can no longer eat what you like, when you like. Meat, dairy, and especially grain based products should be a treat, not a staple. When we evolved, those three food groups were not a staple, which is why so many of us have digestive problems with them.

Hope that helps.

Seriously.  First of all, I didn’t ask for help or advise.  I simply asked if there was someone who wanted to go to Weight Watchers with me.

Secondly,  a “foodaholic”???  How can you say that someone is a foodaholic when you don’t even know them?

Thirdly,  as an overweight person, I probably still eat MORE healthily than most non overweight people I know!

Of course I’m not perfect.  I know that.  But I’m pretty sure I know what to do, it’s a matter of DOING it.  I KNOW I need someone else to be accountable to and I admit that fully.  As a lifetime member of Weight Watchers it’s pretty much engrained in my head what I need to do.  I also am VERY interested in nutrition, superfoods, that sort of thing.  I also fully admit that I need to be a little bit more active for this all to come together.

I just felt it was incredibly presumptious of this person to write this post, which pretty much had nothing to do with the question I asked.

Funnily enough, *I* feel like the butthole now, because I responded to her, and not so incredibly nicely.

4 Responses to "Why are some people such @$$h*l3s?"

1 | leedarenee

August 5th, 2007 at 6:13 pm

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Ug what an idiot. How dare they? Don’t feel bad, she sounds like she needed a good tounge lashing.

2 | velveteen

August 5th, 2007 at 8:26 pm

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I’m glad I could provide a service to her then, because she got one!

3 | Kery

August 7th, 2007 at 12:45 pm

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That was pretty moronic, I admit. I know I’m the kind of person who has a tendency to give advice, and I try to be as careful as possible to not go overboard, only give it if the person has epxressely asked for advice/help… but there’s a limit to draw. And calling someone a foodaholic, whether you already know how they eat or not, is kind of rude IMHO.

4 | velveteen

August 7th, 2007 at 10:33 pm

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I know exactly what you mean Kery. I also am very careful to give advise, to make sure it’s actually asked for, and then I certainly am careful not to use such terms with people because I simply couldn’t know.

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