Real Life is Sometimes Lame
Rant: why can’t I find nice, fun, interesting friends in real life like I can find online? I swear, I have the hardest time finding REAL friends in real life. That makes me sound all lame and pathetic, doesn’t it? But it is true.
My husband is pretty introverted, so besides golfing with his “work buddies” he doesn’t socialize with anybody, either. We haven’t gone out with another couple in over 4 years (my parents don’t count).
*sigh*
I want all the cool people I’ve met online to move to my town so we can all bowl/play poker/ride roller coasters/go kayaking/make fun of the Oscars together. Is that so much to ask for?
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Notice how this real-life friend is totally unimpressed with my new running shoes. Bah, I say, bah. |
A few months ago, I confessed to hubby that I have “online friends” his response was pretty much, “yes, and…?” I’m having the same trouble…moved here two years ago & it’s been impossible to meet people. I finally made a friend to have lunch & drinks with & she just moved to Portland on Saturday. UGH! So now I’m back to square one!
Anyway, I’m with ya! & unlike your furry friend, I am VERY impressed with your new running shoes, especially since I know you probably ran right through your last pair! I hope this new pair can keep up with what you have planned for them.
I have an online friend I met when we were pregnant with our son’s together (6 years ago). After 6 year, I talk to her EVERYDAY on the phone (at least twice a day) and I go visit her 3 times a year. Hubby doesn’t quite understand, but he is okay with it now. I think it’s because it’s easy to find people on the internet you have something in common with. You already have an instant connection and can work on all the other stuff.
And not to sound stalkerish… but you and I don’t live THAT far from each other. We could always meet in the middle somewhere. Just sayin’.
I like your shoes as well. Your friend is just jealous
You sound just like me! I am sure DH is sick of me complaining about this very issue for the last two years. He had golf buddies back in IL but since in CA nothing. He goes surfing now, his new passion. It has been incredibly slow for me to find/make friends, and while I now have 3, they cannot be counted on for any exercise, and I just occasionally see them, mostly at a Girls Night Out movie night we recently instituted about once/month. (Only had it twice so far). No family close here, just a BIL about 2 hours away who we rarely see, not very close with.
I am enjoying reading your blog and read about your progress at 3FC, but don’t know where you live. Sounds like maybe southeast coast, or gulf coast, or FL? Only guessed that b/c of the causeway bridge in one photo. We don’t have any of those as far as I know out here in CA. Too bad we don’t live close….
Oh yay, I’m so glad I’m not the only one who is experiencing this. Not that I wish this on any one else, but helps to know that it’s not because I’m just a completely obnoxious person that no one likes.
Modcat, I live on the east coast of Florida, of course, soooo far away.
Ugh it’s annoying isn’t it? I’m making myself go to a veg meetup next Monday. I’m reduced to making friends via the internet to go along with my internet friends. Big ol le sigh.
Your furry friend is about as impressed as mine gets when I’m sharing my day
I am so lucky that I have lots of real life friends as well as my online friends. Actually, it’s not luck. My husband and I have this weird stalkerish thing that we do which is actually probably a sickness, but whenever our kids make friends we, like, have to be BESTEST EVER FRIENDS with their parents, and we totally impose ourselves on them and if they don’t invite us over every 10 minues we’re all, like, what did we do wrong, why don’t they like us. We are sick freaks, but as a result we have two “couple” friends that we can always count on for a night out. Most of my girlfriends I’ve met through hanging out at the local yarn shop (we’re knitters) or are people I went to court reporting school with. I have lived here for 10 years and thought I would NEVER EVER EVER find friends like the friends I left back home. And I do have internet friends that I’ve met up with in real life, too, and that’s always a lot of fun.
So, TD, head on over to Portland, Oregon and I’ll pick you up at the airport, we’ll kayak over to the roller coaster and play some cards : )
OMG. This is totally my mental therapy for the day. I always feel like I am the only one who struggles with this. My hubby is a quiet type too, but he doesn’t even golf so therefore does not even have golf buddies. I am a quiet in groups type who is otherwise very talkative, but hubby just doesn’t have much to say. Kind of hard to find “couples” friends that match us.
I think my problem is that I am so ungirly. I don’t do candle parties and spa days or shop endlessly. I am a total suburban misfit.
Yeah…I have no RL friends. Pretty pathetic as I’m an extovert. My Hubby’s really tired of hearing me talk. Wanna come to GA and gab with me? I’ll pick up some tequila.
I feel ya on this one. I thought I was the only one and that “something” was wrong with me. Maybe because we aren’t “from” here, but Jess & I have the same problem. Eight years I have been here and when I fill out a job application, the only references are those from back home and the lady across the street.
All my friends live in my computer too!
I have great RL friends who you would love, and they would love you. Come visit any time.
When you invite us to your super duper boot camp, I will do all I can to be there.