Comments on: Life and the people in it http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/toobig/2008/04/27/life-and-the-people-in-it/ I Get By With A Little Help From My Friends Sun, 23 Nov 2008 13:02:39 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: lostchick http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/toobig/2008/04/27/life-and-the-people-in-it/#comment-292 lostchick Mon, 05 May 2008 16:24:11 +0000 http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/toobig/2008/04/27/life-and-the-people-in-it/#comment-292 Girl power that men can't handle anymore that's all it is Bobbie Nice save there at the end island girl (hehe) ;) Mine DH is starting to get a glimmer of inspiration, I could only hope. Girl power that men can’t handle anymore that’s all it is Bobbie

Nice save there at the end island girl (hehe) ;)

Mine DH is starting to get a glimmer of inspiration, I could only hope.

]]> By: islandgrl http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/toobig/2008/04/27/life-and-the-people-in-it/#comment-289 islandgrl Sun, 04 May 2008 21:23:14 +0000 http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/toobig/2008/04/27/life-and-the-people-in-it/#comment-289 Congrats on the 4.5 pound loss girl! As for the BF, I find that as the years go on and women in general become more successful in good careers vs the tradition jobs of women years ago ie: waitress, hairdresser etc and are making damn good money, that men have slacked off. It is like they now need someone to also financially look after them, not just mother them anymore. Or do successful women just draw these types of men? My DH is a wonderful guy, will give you the shirt of his back, will do anything I want of him EXCEPT better himself. He also has no ambition to do anything but sit in his office in the shed and vegetate. I get so disgusted that it truly affects our relationship. And no bad thoughts about waitress and hairdressers, God knows how hard you all work, just that they were the more traditional job of the past. Congrats on the 4.5 pound loss girl!
As for the BF, I find that as the years go on and women in general become more successful in good careers vs the tradition jobs of women years ago ie: waitress, hairdresser etc
and are making damn good money, that men have slacked off. It is like they now need someone to also financially look after them, not just mother them anymore.
Or do successful women just draw these types of men?
My DH is a wonderful guy, will give you the shirt of his back, will do anything I want of him EXCEPT better himself. He also has no ambition to do anything but sit in his office in the shed and vegetate. I get so disgusted that it truly affects our relationship.
And no bad thoughts about waitress and hairdressers, God knows how hard you all work, just that they were the more traditional job of the past.

]]> By: lostchick http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/toobig/2008/04/27/life-and-the-people-in-it/#comment-286 lostchick Tue, 29 Apr 2008 21:57:11 +0000 http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/toobig/2008/04/27/life-and-the-people-in-it/#comment-286 ok I've got 2 words for you chicky Voodoo Dolls. hmmm where have I heard that advice before????? really it's time to check the list for positives & negatives which side has the most checks. Yes I know sooo 4th grade and easier said than done. Hugs! ok I’ve got 2 words for you chicky

Voodoo Dolls.

hmmm where have I heard that advice before?????

really it’s time to check the list for positives & negatives which side has the most checks. Yes I know sooo 4th grade and easier said than done.
Hugs!

]]> By: anngirl http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/toobig/2008/04/27/life-and-the-people-in-it/#comment-284 anngirl Tue, 29 Apr 2008 01:56:13 +0000 http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/toobig/2008/04/27/life-and-the-people-in-it/#comment-284 Congrats ms. bobbie on bustin that plateau! I heard that shit pop all the way o'er here while chewin on my beloved bbq rib! Right on sister. Now as far as that man goes. Shit, like an asshole everybody's got an opinion and Anniegirl is the biggest ASS so here it is - my ex husband had NO ambition. It led to the DEMISE of our relationship because that fucker never could get his shit together and when you're makin it in this world its better to be alone than be saddled with a man who.... ok I'll stop there. I am alone - I know - but I'm grateful that I don't have an albatross around my neck. I know a guy with no drive at this age when I want kids would mean endless arguing and strife. No thanks. I'd rather be alone. But dear Bobbie - it took me a good 10 years to end my marriage.... I got a head like a brick. All I can say is be good to yourself - and when you think about that real hard you'll know what to do.... IF you're ready, willing and able. Life can be so complicated. It definitely ain't no picnic. Now if you'll excuse me - the whip cream on my ice box pie is starting to wilt.... love ya homegirl - be good and stay strong! xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo Congrats ms. bobbie on bustin that plateau! I heard that shit pop all the way o’er here while chewin on my beloved bbq rib! Right on sister.

Now as far as that man goes. Shit, like an asshole everybody’s got an opinion and Anniegirl is the biggest ASS so here it is - my ex husband had NO ambition. It led to the DEMISE of our relationship because that fucker never could get his shit together and when you’re makin it in this world its better to be alone than be saddled with a man who…. ok I’ll stop there. I am alone - I know - but I’m grateful that I don’t have an albatross around my neck. I know a guy with no drive at this age when I want kids would mean endless arguing and strife. No thanks. I’d rather be alone. But dear Bobbie - it took me a good 10 years to end my marriage….

I got a head like a brick.

All I can say is be good to yourself - and when you think about that real hard you’ll know what to do…. IF you’re ready, willing and able.

Life can be so complicated.

It definitely ain’t no picnic.

Now if you’ll excuse me - the whip cream on my ice box pie is starting to wilt….

love ya homegirl - be good and stay strong!

xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo

]]> By: rubyjean http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/toobig/2008/04/27/life-and-the-people-in-it/#comment-283 rubyjean Mon, 28 Apr 2008 14:24:45 +0000 http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/toobig/2008/04/27/life-and-the-people-in-it/#comment-283 I say this not knowing you well, so forgive me, truly... but the first thing that came to my mind was run! Run like the wind! Living with disappointment like that kills romance and hurts your own soul. It is my personal experience that a man's lack of ambition is likely permanent feature of his nature. He must have other great qualities (kindness, humour, loves you, spoils you, honest, smart), and if he does, you can stick it out, make concessions, but if not.... Iniya's message is far more positive. Congratulatins on breaking through that plateau. 4.5 lbs is major! I also think you made a good decision about not care-taking your friend. So sad for her. Take Care dear lady - and apoligies if I said too much. I say this not knowing you well, so forgive me, truly… but the first thing that came to my mind was run! Run like the wind! Living with disappointment like that kills romance and hurts your own soul. It is my personal experience that a man’s lack of ambition is likely permanent feature of his nature. He must have other great qualities (kindness, humour, loves you, spoils you, honest, smart), and if he does, you can stick it out, make concessions, but if not….
Iniya’s message is far more positive.
Congratulatins on breaking through that plateau. 4.5 lbs is major!
I also think you made a good decision about not care-taking your friend. So sad for her.
Take Care dear lady - and apoligies if I said too much.

]]> By: iniya http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/toobig/2008/04/27/life-and-the-people-in-it/#comment-282 iniya Mon, 28 Apr 2008 05:15:38 +0000 http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/toobig/2008/04/27/life-and-the-people-in-it/#comment-282 PS 4.6 lbs mean you are off the plateau? isn't it? Anyway congratulations!!! :) PS 4.6 lbs mean you are off the plateau? isn’t it? Anyway congratulations!!! :)

]]> By: iniya http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/toobig/2008/04/27/life-and-the-people-in-it/#comment-281 iniya Mon, 28 Apr 2008 05:14:37 +0000 http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/toobig/2008/04/27/life-and-the-people-in-it/#comment-281 Good to hear that you slept and took some rest. Your friend and her hubby are unbelievable. Okay, that is my opinion only. Maybe they have their own demons to fight and trying to cope in this way. However that is no reason at all for you to bear their load. It is uncanny how again and again people of this kind find and guilt the strong ones to carry their load. All I am trying to say is that it is good decision on your part to not be her caretaker again. Now don't let them or anyone waver you from this decision. One more nosy suggestion. :) Maybe, just maybe your boyfriend is anxious that he wont be able to do the work that will follow his promotion. If his boss wants to give him a promotion worth $3500 more per month, then he must be worth it. Maybe he is not ambitious but he definitely is worthy of the promotion. Maybe, just maybe it might help if you can get him to talk what's bothering him and bolster his confidence a bit. Since you have the ambition and the clear vision, perhaps loan a bit of that to him, Isn't that being a couple? trying to compensate for each other's weakness a bit? Please don't be angry with me, ok? I am not in a couple and not soemone who can give relatiionship advice. But still my two cents here. Lots of love and take care, iniya Good to hear that you slept and took some rest.

Your friend and her hubby are unbelievable. Okay, that is my opinion only. Maybe they have their own demons to fight and trying to cope in this way. However that is no reason at all for you to bear their load. It is uncanny how again and again people of this kind find and guilt the strong ones to carry their load. All I am trying to say is that it is good decision on your part to not be her caretaker again. Now don’t let them or anyone waver you from this decision.

One more nosy suggestion. :) Maybe, just maybe your boyfriend is anxious that he wont be able to do the work that will follow his promotion. If his boss wants to give him a promotion worth $3500 more per month, then he must be worth it. Maybe he is not ambitious but he definitely is worthy of the promotion. Maybe, just maybe it might help if you can get him to talk what’s bothering him and bolster his confidence a bit. Since you have the ambition and the clear vision, perhaps loan a bit of that to him, Isn’t that being a couple? trying to compensate for each other’s weakness a bit?

Please don’t be angry with me, ok? I am not in a couple and not soemone who can give relatiionship advice. But still my two cents here.

Lots of love and take care,

iniya

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