Comments on: Brooding http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2008/03/30/brooding/ Just another 3fatchicks.com weblog Wed, 07 Jan 2009 18:51:55 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: anngirl http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2008/03/30/brooding/#comment-756 anngirl Tue, 01 Apr 2008 06:00:49 +0000 http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2008/03/30/brooding/#comment-756 What saddens me the most is that after these years you have this horrible treatment to remember as well as your beloved Mother. It's so terrible what your Mother and you went through. Thank goodness you were there for her - I've worked with a lot of poor souls that I couldn't find any family members for and that made me so sad. You did a beautiful thing Ms. Soclose - you showed your mother love and compassion to the very end. I only hope I can do the same for my Mother. I am truly sorry about what these folks did to your family. xoxoxoxox What saddens me the most is that after these years you have this horrible treatment to remember as well as your beloved Mother. It’s so terrible what your Mother and you went through. Thank goodness you were there for her - I’ve worked with a lot of poor souls that I couldn’t find any family members for and that made me so sad.

You did a beautiful thing Ms. Soclose - you showed your mother love and compassion to the very end. I only hope I can do the same for my Mother.

I am truly sorry about what these folks did to your family.
xoxoxoxox

]]> By: Bobbie http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2008/03/30/brooding/#comment-755 Bobbie Tue, 01 Apr 2008 05:58:59 +0000 http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2008/03/30/brooding/#comment-755 My heart goes out for you. My grandmother lived with us while she was dying from breast cancer. I totally understand how you feel and how disappointed and frustrating the medical system is. We are all going to die at the hands of our HMO's. I think it was wonderful and loving for you to take your mom home with you. I know the sacrifice you made. You are truly an angel here on Earth. She was blessed to be with you during her final days. God Bless you and your family ~ I am sending you lots and lots of hugs. I am glad you got some of it out. That's what we are here for. {{Hugs!}} My heart goes out for you. My grandmother lived with us while she was dying from breast cancer. I totally understand how you feel and how disappointed and frustrating the medical system is. We are all going to die at the hands of our HMO’s.

I think it was wonderful and loving for you to take your mom home with you. I know the sacrifice you made. You are truly an angel here on Earth. She was blessed to be with you during her final days.

God Bless you and your family ~ I am sending you lots and lots of hugs. I am glad you got some of it out. That’s what we are here for.

{{Hugs!}}

]]> By: bosoxfan http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2008/03/30/brooding/#comment-754 bosoxfan Mon, 31 Mar 2008 23:47:20 +0000 http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2008/03/30/brooding/#comment-754 My mom experienced a similar situation when my grandparents became too much to manage on her own, and she had to put them in a nursing home. Some nursing! Many of the things you describe were very similar to what happened to them, and no matter what age and condition patients are in, they absolutely should be treated with the compassion and care anyone else would be given. I'm sorry for the loss of your mother, and I hope with time the healing will continue. My mom experienced a similar situation when my grandparents became too much to manage on her own, and she had to put them in a nursing home. Some nursing! Many of the things you describe were very similar to what happened to them, and no matter what age and condition patients are in, they absolutely should be treated with the compassion and care anyone else would be given. I’m sorry for the loss of your mother, and I hope with time the healing will continue.

]]> By: rubyjean http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2008/03/30/brooding/#comment-753 rubyjean Mon, 31 Mar 2008 12:26:12 +0000 http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2008/03/30/brooding/#comment-753 I read this with such trepidation. I am also truly sorry that your mom and you had to endure a terrible experience at the hands of an uncaring health system. My mom has already told me over and over again that if she is to fall ill with something terrible like cancer, she does not want to go to the hospital or be treated with radiation or chemo. It sounds like you handled everything with grace and love and determination, nevertheless, you must have been so tired. I send you bear hugs. I read this with such trepidation. I am also truly sorry that your mom and you had to endure a terrible experience at the hands of an uncaring health system. My mom has already told me over and over again that if she is to fall ill with something terrible like cancer, she does not want to go to the hospital or be treated with radiation or chemo. It sounds like you handled everything with grace and love and determination, nevertheless, you must have been so tired. I send you bear hugs.

]]> By: Ann http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2008/03/30/brooding/#comment-752 Ann Mon, 31 Mar 2008 11:54:15 +0000 http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2008/03/30/brooding/#comment-752 I'm sorry to hear about your mother, it is so difficult to deal with even without the botched healthcare, dealing with parents getting old. :| I work with healthcare providers to automate their offices and yes, all they care about is how many bodies they can move in and out of the door as quickly as possible. The quality of healthcare in this country is truly appalling. My solution is to never go to the doctor unless it's an emergency. Works for me, I only go about once a year and I'm doing fine. I’m sorry to hear about your mother, it is so difficult to deal with even without the botched healthcare, dealing with parents getting old. :|

I work with healthcare providers to automate their offices and yes, all they care about is how many bodies they can move in and out of the door as quickly as possible. The quality of healthcare in this country is truly appalling. My solution is to never go to the doctor unless it’s an emergency. Works for me, I only go about once a year and I’m doing fine.

]]> By: iniya http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2008/03/30/brooding/#comment-751 iniya Mon, 31 Mar 2008 02:56:22 +0000 http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2008/03/30/brooding/#comment-751 I am so sorry that you had to go through such pain because of poor medical help. My dad had also burned his feet by wrapping it in a heating pad for way too long. His feet was so numb, he didn't realize it has burned. He barely escaped amputation. When we went in after he passed away, my mom showed me his feet. There were actually hideous holes even after a couple of months. Diabetics suffer cruelly. Since this is a hereditary disorder, hope you are taking great care. I am trying to fight mine. I still can't imagine what it must have been to have her so ill and a daughter so small. When my mom had her breakdown, I used to be near her all the time, so she could not get up and leave. She used to leave the house without slippers in the night dress or sometimes go and yell at my dad or lock the batjroom from inside. the few days before we had to hospitalize her exhausted me. Sometimes when she is sleeping, I would fall asleep too. I remember waking up each time if she so much as turns in her sleep. I am sure the nurses in the nursing home didn't treat her all that well. But since the medication started working, she kind of managed better than others. Though she tried to come home with us each time we visited. I used to cry buckets each time I had to leave her there after my visits. Anyway, the main thing is that you came through for her. Lots of love and a big squishy hug. iniya I am so sorry that you had to go through such pain because of poor medical help. My dad had also burned his feet by wrapping it in a heating pad for way too long. His feet was so numb, he didn’t realize it has burned. He barely escaped amputation. When we went in after he passed away, my mom showed me his feet. There were actually hideous holes even after a couple of months. Diabetics suffer cruelly. Since this is a hereditary disorder, hope you are taking great care. I am trying to fight mine.

I still can’t imagine what it must have been to have her so ill and a daughter so small. When my mom had her breakdown, I used to be near her all the time, so she could not get up and leave. She used to leave the house without slippers in the night dress or sometimes go and yell at my dad or lock the batjroom from inside. the few days before we had to hospitalize her exhausted me. Sometimes when she is sleeping, I would fall asleep too. I remember waking up each time if she so much as turns in her sleep. I am sure the nurses in the nursing home didn’t treat her all that well. But since the medication started working, she kind of managed better than others. Though she tried to come home with us each time we visited. I used to cry buckets each time I had to leave her there after my visits.

Anyway, the main thing is that you came through for her.

Lots of love and a big squishy hug.

iniya

]]> By: ellabella http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2008/03/30/brooding/#comment-750 ellabella Mon, 31 Mar 2008 01:34:39 +0000 http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2008/03/30/brooding/#comment-750 Yes indeed. I may have mentioned - when I first heard it, because I was so incensed - that here in Massachusetts, the CEO of Blue Cross/Blue Shield, which is, of course, a NON-PROFIT HMO, earns $1 mil annually. WORSE, the chairman of their board (whoever heard of a PAID board chair on a NON-PROFIT organization?) is paid $20 mil!!!!! This, mind you, is the same organization that routinely denies procedures to women with breast cancer that could save their lives because they are "experimental"!!!! Did you see Michael Moore's movie, "SICKO"???? I wish it was surprising - wish it had caused me to be amazed, astounded, etc., etc. Sadly, it didn't surprise me a bit. The medical procession has devolved over the years from being comprised of people who go into it because they CARE ABOUT their fellow man to being comprised of greedy, soulless, compassionless individuals whose motivation is nothing more than greed. Those few who do care or do want to do their best for the ill are far and few between and growing more rare every day. I'm so horribly sorry about your experience with mother - perhaps it was kinder (to her) to experience all of that through the fog of dementia. You were there for her, did your best against the worst of odds, and despite your troubled history with her. And that was honorable and good, Ms. Close. Something never to lose sight of. Hugs to you, friend. Z Yes indeed. I may have mentioned - when I first heard it, because I was so incensed - that here in Massachusetts, the CEO of Blue Cross/Blue Shield, which is, of course, a NON-PROFIT HMO, earns $1 mil annually. WORSE, the chairman of their board (whoever heard of a PAID board chair on a NON-PROFIT organization?) is paid $20 mil!!!!! This, mind you, is the same organization that routinely denies procedures to women with breast cancer that could save their lives because they are “experimental”!!!! Did you see Michael Moore’s movie, “SICKO”???? I wish it was surprising - wish it had caused me to be amazed, astounded, etc., etc. Sadly, it didn’t surprise me a bit. The medical procession has devolved over the years from being comprised of people who go into it because they CARE ABOUT their fellow man to being comprised of greedy, soulless, compassionless individuals whose motivation is nothing more than greed. Those few who do care or do want to do their best for the ill are far and few between and growing more rare every day. I’m so horribly sorry about your experience with mother - perhaps it was kinder (to her) to experience all of that through the fog of dementia. You were there for her, did your best against the worst of odds, and despite your troubled history with her. And that was honorable and good, Ms. Close. Something never to lose sight of.
Hugs to you, friend.
Z

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