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I’m glad it’s Friday. I’ve had good energy all week but today isn’t in the ball park; maybe I didn’t rest well, who knows?
Ruby asked if A played soccer before. In PE and informally a lot, formally, the short answer is yes, twice–once as an 9yr. old with the Y team; the second time (almost) last year as a freshman and therein lies a story which partially explains my ambivalence to her wanting to play now. Last year she was in an academy at a different city high school—overall, a much more affluent school. It was very much “clicky” and she was of course “out of zone”. This year she switched to the city high which houses the IB program–a great IB school but center city and in a much poorer (and rougher) high school overall. Soccer is played as a spring sport, it’s the conditioning that’s going on now. Last year I paid $90.00 to have her attend the conditioning weeks. She then joined try-outs a few days late and figured she was ok to play as at least j.v., nothing was ever said to her by the coach about anyone needing to be cut. On Wed. they were given uniforms and I attended the parents meeting (maybe 6 families there) that evening, stayed after to meet the coach (a female student at a local college, who graduated from this high)—by that time the room was just about empty. On Thursday the team picture for the yearbook was taken (no practice). On Friday A. went to practice and the coach told her she was cut. When I asked her what the reason was A said she said she “just wasn’t good enough”—-SORRY, I smell a rat here—this is NOT how these things should be handled at ALL. A runs 10Ks; she was voted most athletic for her entire class the year before—didn’t make any sense to me—not so much that she was cut, but how it was handled. I screamed bloody murder (nicely) all the way to the principal, who was called while away for the week-end and the upshot was they they fell on their sword, apologies all over: new coach, handled wrong, didn’t know any better. Well, it was ruined for her by then. So, soccer does NOT sit well for a few of reasons, but mainly because I’m an unforgiving bi*ch when it comes to something that’s been so unfair as this. But A is one of those try and try again types, whereas I hold and nurse that grudge forever and wish very bad things on the people who hurt my daughter. I really do think the best sports are the ones where you depend on yourself and your own performance. Enough!!! What will be, will be. Oh, as for softball, I suggested that to her and got nowhere.
Gym: 2.3 mi tm, ladies lite aerobics.
Food: bfsk: V8, oatmeal w/skim, tea w/skim………..snack: 2 slices deli turkey, f.f. cottage cheese, thin slice banana bread, 1/2 packet Instant Breakfast powder in about 6 oz. skim……..will add later…………late lunch–realized that was a rather large snack!! tomato soup, chicken, peach yogurt w/walnuts……….just had “dinner”–not much hungry though: last of the bean salad, strawberries……
Ahhhhhh….another exciting night with a book and tv. G’nite chickadees!
February 1st, 2008 at 3:08 pm
Gawd, I love the way you are the lioness Mama protecting her little cub!!! Now, THAT’S the way a mother SHOULD be! I can remember trotting over to the school(s) on many an occasion to ensure that all four of my offspring were treated appropriately. No wonder I think you’re so special, Ms. Soclose!
Hugs,
Z
February 1st, 2008 at 8:35 pm
YEAH! Mother protecter, lets hear you roar! What book will you be immersing yourself in?
February 2nd, 2008 at 3:35 pm
I wish bad things on bad people too. Never tried the voodoo doll, but there have been temptations!
February 2nd, 2008 at 10:35 pm
Ladies lite aerobics sounds interesting! What does it consist of? No kids for me yet, so I’m spared these travails of motherhood but good for you for standing up for her!
February 3rd, 2008 at 10:02 am
Thanks for the explanation - it does sound like a circuit workout more than light aerobics! Sounds great though, working out in a group might be fun. Hm.
February 3rd, 2008 at 9:09 pm
SoClose, I’m with you on smelling the rat, and with you on speaking up about it, and with you on thinking that the coach is a b***. That should not be the way things are done. I have seen this happen with my girls, too. Bloody ‘ell! And I’m sure you don’t want to be perceived as an obnoxious parent - and that’s how coaches and teachers sometimes pigeon hole parents who speak up - even though you’re most definitely not being obnoxious! Bl**dy b*stards! I have been on the coaching side and have experienced the real obnoxious parents, and, obviously, have been on the parent side, struggling to find the right words/actions to defend my child. It’s rough. Now I understand what you meant about not being so partial towards the soccer. Your A. is a great kid, though, and will sail through this and move on.
Take care
Love, Rubes
February 4th, 2008 at 10:42 am
You really are a mama bear, rawr! I dont blame you for being upset, it does sound rather odd. I wonder what’s going on with all that?
Menu looks good as always