Comments on: Emma http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2008/01/21/emma/ Just another 3fatchicks.com weblog Wed, 07 Jan 2009 23:51:22 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: anngirl http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2008/01/21/emma/#comment-543 anngirl Thu, 24 Jan 2008 04:46:17 +0000 http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2008/01/21/emma/#comment-543 Thanks for sharing ;) It reminds me again of how precious my Mother is and how much I will miss her when she goes to the happy mountain. Gonna go call her now! xo Thanks for sharing ;) It reminds me again of how precious my Mother is and how much I will miss her when she goes to the happy mountain.

Gonna go call her now!
xo

]]> By: round http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2008/01/21/emma/#comment-541 round Wed, 23 Jan 2008 20:51:06 +0000 http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2008/01/21/emma/#comment-541 Thank you so much for sharing the story of your mother. It's so nice to see someone's life in a snapshot and it makes both of you seem so much more real. Hugs to you Thank you so much for sharing the story of your mother. It’s so nice to see someone’s life in a snapshot and it makes both of you seem so much more real.

Hugs to you

]]> By: iniya http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2008/01/21/emma/#comment-538 iniya Wed, 23 Jan 2008 06:50:56 +0000 http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2008/01/21/emma/#comment-538 It is a wonderful entry. I am so proud to have known your mom (hoever little) through you. I agree with Ms. Ella, she had brought up a very loving, caring, sensitive, fun and wonderful person. Our parents, specially mothers, aunts, grandmothers went through so much and that is why we have so many choices nowadays. They truly deserve a lot of respect. I think the relationship between a mother and her daughter is always complex. I am the only daughter and my mom had many many unfulfilled dreams and had always looked down (my perception) on being a woman. So we always had a turbulent relationship and it still continues. But we do love each other lots, in our own messy ways but lots nonetheless. My mom was so much less strict with my brother but I think now that was because she was so much more afraid for me. This reminds me that I know far less about my dad. I should some day sit down and think about my memories of him and try to figure him out more. You made me thinking. :) I now feeling lot less blah, suddenly remembering the heritage and love that I carry in my daily life and choices. So many women gave so much to get me here and how can I feel less about something so precious. Lots of love, iniya It is a wonderful entry. I am so proud to have known your mom (hoever little) through you. I agree with Ms. Ella, she had brought up a very loving, caring, sensitive, fun and wonderful person.

Our parents, specially mothers, aunts, grandmothers went through so much and that is why we have so many choices nowadays. They truly deserve a lot of respect.

I think the relationship between a mother and her daughter is always complex. I am the only daughter and my mom had many many unfulfilled dreams and had always looked down (my perception) on being a woman. So we always had a turbulent relationship and it still continues. But we do love each other lots, in our own messy ways but lots nonetheless. My mom was so much less strict with my brother but I think now that was because she was so much more afraid for me. This reminds me that I know far less about my dad. I should some day sit down and think about my memories of him and try to figure him out more.

You made me thinking. :) I now feeling lot less blah, suddenly remembering the heritage and love that I carry in my daily life and choices. So many women gave so much to get me here and how can I feel less about something so precious.

Lots of love,

iniya

]]> By: thebell http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2008/01/21/emma/#comment-537 thebell Wed, 23 Jan 2008 05:07:23 +0000 http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2008/01/21/emma/#comment-537 Beautiful story -- your mother must have been so proud of you. It makes me realize how blessed I am to have such an amazing relationship with my mother these days. Beautiful story — your mother must have been so proud of you. It makes me realize how blessed I am to have such an amazing relationship with my mother these days.

]]> By: canadianchunky http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2008/01/21/emma/#comment-536 canadianchunky Wed, 23 Jan 2008 01:54:14 +0000 http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2008/01/21/emma/#comment-536 It always amazes me how strong women of our mother's (and older) generations were. Of course divorce was out of the question if your husband drank or even beat you (not implying that your grandfather did that!). Women could rarely work and if they did (aside from the social stigma) there were very few decent paying jobs available (not to mention the sexual harassment they often endured to keep them!). We so often take for granted the rights we now have thanks to the work of many of our mothers. A salute to all of our Moms! It always amazes me how strong women of our mother’s (and older) generations were. Of course divorce was out of the question if your husband drank or even beat you (not implying that your grandfather did that!). Women could rarely work and if they did (aside from the social stigma) there were very few decent paying jobs available (not to mention the sexual harassment they often endured to keep them!).

We so often take for granted the rights we now have thanks to the work of many of our mothers.

A salute to all of our Moms!

]]> By: leanmoomercows http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2008/01/21/emma/#comment-535 leanmoomercows Tue, 22 Jan 2008 23:52:09 +0000 http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2008/01/21/emma/#comment-535 This was a wonderful entry. I'm sorry for your loss, it sounds like your mom was a wonderful woman who tried very, very hard to keep you all from living homeless. And she seemed like she really wanted you all to have good futures. I'm sure she's very proud of you. This was a wonderful entry. I’m sorry for your loss, it sounds like your mom was a wonderful woman who tried very, very hard to keep you all from living homeless. And she seemed like she really wanted you all to have good futures. I’m sure she’s very proud of you.

]]> By: leedarenee http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2008/01/21/emma/#comment-534 leedarenee Tue, 22 Jan 2008 15:31:10 +0000 http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2008/01/21/emma/#comment-534 I loved reading this. There are so many parts of our lives and our families that could be made into books because despite us all being normal people, our lives are interesting and different in so many ways. Your mom sounds like she was a complex woman. I am sorry to hear that she died to due to some fault in the medical system. I hope you can wrap yourself in the good memories today. I loved reading this. There are so many parts of our lives and our families that could be made into books because despite us all being normal people, our lives are interesting and different in so many ways. Your mom sounds like she was a complex woman. I am sorry to hear that she died to due to some fault in the medical system. I hope you can wrap yourself in the good memories today.

]]> By: rubyjean http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2008/01/21/emma/#comment-533 rubyjean Tue, 22 Jan 2008 14:23:04 +0000 http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2008/01/21/emma/#comment-533 It's funny, like ella, and maybe like you, too, it's one of my major themes - thinking about my parents and their parents and their lives, wondering about the same things; why they did what they did and how their decisions and even the decisions of their grandparents affected their lives, and ultimately ours. My own mom - and sadly, also my dad, grew up in an incredibly poor family too; same type of mother - my Ouma, "Ma" - iron fisted control. They also collected coal from the bottom of the bins and from the side of the railroad tracks. It's so good that your mom was with you at the end of her life. Hopefully some of your memories will bring you comfort...Love RubyJean It’s funny, like ella, and maybe like you, too, it’s one of my major themes - thinking about my parents and their parents and their lives, wondering about the same things; why they did what they did and how their decisions and even the decisions of their grandparents affected their lives, and ultimately ours. My own mom - and sadly, also my dad, grew up in an incredibly poor family too; same type of mother - my Ouma, “Ma” - iron fisted control. They also collected coal from the bottom of the bins and from the side of the railroad tracks. It’s so good that your mom was with you at the end of her life. Hopefully some of your memories will bring you comfort…Love RubyJean

]]> By: ellabella http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2008/01/21/emma/#comment-532 ellabella Tue, 22 Jan 2008 13:49:33 +0000 http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2008/01/21/emma/#comment-532 It has often struck me - especially in recent years for some reason - that we know so very little about our parents; who they were, I mean, aside from being our parents - what motivat(ed) them to behave as they did towards us, and how they may have seemed to others - how they may have seemed to themselves, what is "real" about what we remember of them, and what is perhaps colored by the immature perceptions of childhood. I know that your relationship with your mother was a difficult one, as was mine with my mother. That you kept your mom with you in her latter years and cared for her as you did reflects the inherent lovingness of who YOU are...and, that being the case, perhaps her love for you was demonstrated in ways you didn't comprehend, because she certainly raised up a very loving and caring daughter, didn't she? Methinks she would be very proud, Soclose. It has often struck me - especially in recent years for some reason - that we know so very little about our parents; who they were, I mean, aside from being our parents - what motivat(ed) them to behave as they did towards us, and how they may have seemed to others - how they may have seemed to themselves, what is “real” about what we remember of them, and what is perhaps colored by the immature perceptions of childhood. I know that your relationship with your mother was a difficult one, as was mine with my mother. That you kept your mom with you in her latter years and cared for her as you did reflects the inherent lovingness of who YOU are…and, that being the case, perhaps her love for you was demonstrated in ways you didn’t comprehend, because she certainly raised up a very loving and caring daughter, didn’t she? Methinks she would be very proud, Soclose.

]]> By: islandgrl http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2008/01/21/emma/#comment-531 islandgrl Tue, 22 Jan 2008 11:20:19 +0000 http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2008/01/21/emma/#comment-531 My mom's birthday will be on Feb 5th. I lost her 2 years ago. I still miss her every day. How nice to dedicate your blog to your mom on her day. My mom’s birthday will be on Feb 5th. I lost her 2 years ago. I still miss her every day. How nice to dedicate your blog to your mom on her day.

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