Comments on: wired! http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2007/12/29/wired/ Just another 3fatchicks.com weblog Wed, 07 Jan 2009 22:32:35 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: lynard http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2007/12/29/wired/#comment-440 lynard Tue, 01 Jan 2008 17:10:56 +0000 http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2007/12/29/wired/#comment-440 Hummm...sounds like a theme here. I too used to have good solid friends - back in college - and they are still friends, but scattered all over the country. I became close to a couple of other women in the past 10 years or so, but ended up being hurt when the frienships ended for one reason or another. I would love a close friend, but maybe I am holding back unconsciously due to past hurts. I too find this site a place to share, vent etc. I'd love to really meet some of you one day. So take care of your self...yes...rent some movies just for you. Your daughter will come around. Mine are now 24 and 26 and they went through those stormy years and r now very decent young women. Lyn Hummm…sounds like a theme here. I too used to have good solid friends - back in college - and they are still friends, but scattered all over the country. I became close to a couple of other women in the past 10 years or so, but ended up being hurt when the frienships ended for one reason or another. I would love a close friend, but maybe I am holding back unconsciously due to past hurts. I too find this site a place to share, vent etc. I’d love to really meet some of you one day.

So take care of your self…yes…rent some movies just for you. Your daughter will come around. Mine are now 24 and 26 and they went through those stormy years and r now very decent young women.

Lyn

]]> By: baileysmomma http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2007/12/29/wired/#comment-438 baileysmomma Mon, 31 Dec 2007 07:04:33 +0000 http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2007/12/29/wired/#comment-438 You sound so much like me. I can NOT remember the last time I done anything for myself that I really ENJOY (other than sex, TMI, I know) and I definately cant remember any pampering. I need friends too. Cant name a single one these days. When I worked (2.5 years ago) at the nursing home I felt my co workers were my 'friends' but being a SAHM and all that comes with that.. makes me sad. I miss friends. You sound so much like me. I can NOT remember the last time I done anything for myself that I really ENJOY (other than sex, TMI, I know) and I definately cant remember any pampering.

I need friends too. Cant name a single one these days. When I worked (2.5 years ago) at the nursing home I felt my co workers were my ‘friends’ but being a SAHM and all that comes with that.. makes me sad. I miss friends.

]]> By: canadianchunky http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2007/12/29/wired/#comment-437 canadianchunky Sun, 30 Dec 2007 05:05:38 +0000 http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2007/12/29/wired/#comment-437 Where do you live?? It sounds like something from the movie Psycho! No doubt making good friends is harder as we get older. In part because we are set in our ways and in part because it seems everyone is working so hard just to etch out a living that no one has a personal life anymore. My good friends? Lucky if I see them 2 - 4 times a year. We talk. We email, but who has time to sit and chat over coffee?? Where to find good friends later in life? I met some through my dog. Some were nutty but they are pleasant and live nearby. I have met some wonderful people in my condo building but largely that is because I was President for a year and on the board for three. We also have a very friendly and warm environment here. I have made some wonderful friends through work during the past few years. Granted once I switch schools it will be a few emails a year. The odd lunch or dinner. One I see musicals with. Our lives are not all that different, in this respect, from what we tell our teenagers. The more you put into school (extra curricular etc) the more you will get out of it. Same goes for us. Find some hobbies or charity work, or courses, YOU want to take. There you will meet people. Then comes the part of deciding if you want to have coffee afterwards. In some ways it is a bit like dating. You meet the person a few times, decide if they are psycho, and then move on from there. At least with courses, you know they end so you need never see the person again!! My final words of advice, NEVER talk to the person next to you on a trans Atlantic flight until you are 1/2 way there! Just in case you are sitting next to psycho dude! On that happy note about the state of human beings Cheers! Shari Where do you live?? It sounds like something from the movie Psycho!

No doubt making good friends is harder as we get older. In part because we are set in our ways and in part because it seems everyone is working so hard just to etch out a living that no one has a personal life anymore. My good friends? Lucky if I see them 2 - 4 times a year. We talk. We email, but who has time to sit and chat over coffee??

Where to find good friends later in life? I met some through my dog. Some were nutty but they are pleasant and live nearby. I have met some wonderful people in my condo building but largely that is because I was President for a year and on the board for three. We also have a very friendly and warm environment here.

I have made some wonderful friends through work during the past few years. Granted once I switch schools it will be a few emails a year. The odd lunch or dinner. One I see musicals with.

Our lives are not all that different, in this respect, from what we tell our teenagers. The more you put into school (extra curricular etc) the more you will get out of it. Same goes for us. Find some hobbies or charity work, or courses, YOU want to take. There you will meet people. Then comes the part of deciding if you want to have coffee afterwards. In some ways it is a bit like dating. You meet the person a few times, decide if they are psycho, and then move on from there. At least with courses, you know they end so you need never see the person again!!

My final words of advice, NEVER talk to the person next to you on a trans Atlantic flight until you are 1/2 way there! Just in case you are sitting next to psycho dude!

On that happy note about the state of human beings
Cheers!
Shari

]]> By: rubyjean http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2007/12/29/wired/#comment-436 rubyjean Sat, 29 Dec 2007 22:34:48 +0000 http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2007/12/29/wired/#comment-436 Hope you had a good rest!! You can plump up your cushions, shove a DVD into the player and break out the bon bons once in awhile.... Boy oh boy do I relate to that "Drop Dead But First, Take Me To The Mall" crowd. I had a good laugh at that. Closing yourself into your bedroom once in awhile for some down time is just plain common sense....anyway, absence makes the heart grow fonder.... I'm still trying to figure out what I think is fun. I MAY dig out my ice skates tomorrow and see if there is an adult session at the local ice-rink - even if I go by myself. Hope you had a good rest!! You can plump up your cushions, shove a DVD into the player and break out the bon bons once in awhile….

Boy oh boy do I relate to that “Drop Dead But First, Take Me To The Mall” crowd. I had a good laugh at that. Closing yourself into your bedroom once in awhile for some down time is just plain common sense….anyway, absence makes the heart grow fonder….

I’m still trying to figure out what I think is fun. I MAY dig out my ice skates tomorrow and see if there is an adult session at the local ice-rink - even if I go by myself.

]]> By: julieesg http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2007/12/29/wired/#comment-435 julieesg Sat, 29 Dec 2007 18:43:21 +0000 http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2007/12/29/wired/#comment-435 I'm SO there regarding the teenagers. I have two and it's never a dull moment. Sometimes, my best parenting move is to go into my bedroom and shut the door. Alcohol is optional. I’m SO there regarding the teenagers. I have two and it’s never a dull moment. Sometimes, my best parenting move is to go into my bedroom and shut the door. Alcohol is optional.

]]> By: jarjonja http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2007/12/29/wired/#comment-434 jarjonja Sat, 29 Dec 2007 15:30:15 +0000 http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2007/12/29/wired/#comment-434 You are such a loving and giving person and sounds like people take advantage of your generous spirit...that unfortunately is human nature! I know I have gone out of my way for people whom I know wouldn't as the saying goes "spit in my mouth if my guts were on fire" but that is just the way it always turns out to be. Your daughter will come around...it may be after she is grown and married but she will come around. My daughter has thanked me many times for being strict with her and not letting her "run wild" so to speak. She said at the time she hated it but she realized it was for her own good and protection...this from a 17 year old if you can believe it! There are real true friends out there somewhere and I know you will come upon them in the future. It is hard not to be jaded when your past experiences have been so many and so frustrating. Even though most don't deserve it, give them the benefit of the doubt and try to trust again. Hope you and yours have a Happy and Blessed New Year!!! Hugs, Judy You are such a loving and giving person and sounds like people take advantage of your generous spirit…that unfortunately is human nature! I know I have gone out of my way for people whom I know wouldn’t as the saying goes “spit in my mouth if my guts were on fire” but that is just the way it always turns out to be.
Your daughter will come around…it may be after she is grown and married but she will come around. My daughter has thanked me many times for being strict with her and not letting her “run wild” so to speak. She said at the time she hated it but she realized it was for her own good and protection…this from a 17 year old if you can believe it!
There are real true friends out there somewhere and I know you will come upon them in the future. It is hard not to be jaded when your past experiences have been so many and so frustrating. Even though most don’t deserve it, give them the benefit of the doubt and try to trust again.
Hope you and yours have a Happy and Blessed New Year!!!
Hugs,
Judy

]]> By: iniya http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2007/12/29/wired/#comment-432 iniya Sat, 29 Dec 2007 13:56:04 +0000 http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/soclose/2007/12/29/wired/#comment-432 I always wonder about the same thing. I also don't make friends so easily on real life. I can let people in after a point. Also I don't really know who I can fall back to if I am in trouble. Of course that is except my brother. I have often found and enjoyed "kindness of the strangers" and I find it much easier to like strangers. :) Please take some more time off to pamper yourself. You do deserve it. love, iniya PS Didn't you enjoy a couple of concerts immensely, sometime before christmas? I remember you being rather happy about them. Maybe you should do something similar more often? I always wonder about the same thing. I also don’t make friends so easily on real life. I can let people in after a point. Also I don’t really know who I can fall back to if I am in trouble. Of course that is except my brother. I have often found and enjoyed “kindness of the strangers” and I find it much easier to like strangers. :)

Please take some more time off to pamper yourself. You do deserve it.

love,

iniya

PS Didn’t you enjoy a couple of concerts immensely, sometime before christmas? I remember you being rather happy about them. Maybe you should do something similar more often?

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