Dessert Test 7 and wrap-up
Food Tests, Low Stress Weight Loss December 21st, 2007Dessert Test 7 :
The Situation : Same buffet lunch again. Now on the 4th day I think we’d finally seen all the dessert choices. Sat w colleagues I like again.
The Dessert : I really didn’t feel like dessert, so I decided to take two clementines and call it good, but there was a really pretty apple tart that had been there the first day, and it was cut into quarters, from about a 6 inch diameter so one quarter was pretty small… So I grabbed that too.
The Analysis : I started w the apple tart, and ate one bite of the whole thing - way too sweet, one bite of the apple part only - way too sweet, and left the rest. The clemetines were delicious - very sweet and juicy. I could have eaten more than two in fact, but didn’t want to get up for ’seconds’ on dessert in front of my colleagues, and after a few minutes I didn’t want more anyway. At home I’d have had at least one more…
I am very glad the Dessert Test is over, and I’m glad I did it. Giving myself a REQUIREMENT to have dessert at every meal helped to demystify sweets for me. I also found that I ate small portions, and stopped when I didn’t like something most of the time, leaving some part of the dessert on my plate almost every time I ate. That alone is a HUGE ACCOMPLISHMENT for me, as I normally clean my plate completely out of habit.
It’s clear that all of the desserts probably added calories to the days, but I was eating much less than I would if I was “off” a diet in freestyle eating. I approached the dessert buffet with the mindset of choosing what ONE I really wanted (whereas when not dieting I’d probably have taken a little bit of several).
Most importantly, I didn’t have any stress around it. It was controlled eating without any feeling of deprivation. How could I feel deprived? Not only was I eating some dessert, I knew I would have dessert again, so no need to “take my share” of something I didn’t like thinking it was a “rare treat”.
I had a strange and rare constant grazing thing in the late afternoon and evening upon returning home from my meeting. I don’t know if it’s tied to stress around my job, holidays or what, but I ate and ate in an unsatisfied but continuous way for about an hour. Definitely not aligned with either hunger nor a weight loss objective. Nothing catastrophic, and I’m hesitant to call it a ‘binge’ but clearly overeating and I felt badly about it both when I was doing it, and afterwards. It’s done now. Behind me, over. I forgive myself, and I’m moving on.
December 21st, 2007 at 12:02 pm
The dessert test was a great success, and like you say, the grazing thing was a blimp and it’s over, so I think you have every reason to be very proud of yourself! Well done!
December 21st, 2007 at 1:37 pm
Wow, I just went through and read all your dessert test entries and it definitely seemed like a success! You have such great ideas; I would have NEVER thought of a dessert test! But now I bet you’ll gag the next time someone asks if you’d like some dessert, right!? Great job! =]
December 21st, 2007 at 1:59 pm
I don’t think I’ll gag when offered dessert again, but I won’t get all giddy with excitement either. I’ll just eat it like a normal food, I hope.
I’ll have dessert tonight (dinner for x-mas my MIL is making), and probably three times from the 23-25. Knowing I’ve already faced it down was part of the reason I wanted to do the test.
December 21st, 2007 at 2:44 pm
I knew you could do this. With Dr Hope’s help you are making a transformation right before our eyes. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and documenting this. You have no idea how many people you are helping.
Merry Christmas! ~Deb
December 21st, 2007 at 2:55 pm
Your dessert test was so interesting. Certainly sounds like a success. Your hour of odd grazing? Glad you’ve dealt with it, it’s over. Who knows? Myabe it was related to hormones? If we were little girls, you would be calling me a copycat! I’ve been taking your posts to heart and trying out these ideas. They seem to work. Thanks for your kind words on my posts! RubyJean
December 21st, 2007 at 3:07 pm
Yay to you. It is definitely a big step ahead. If we can slowly demistify the favorite junk foods more and more, it can be so good. As most of the time, their only attraction is their forbidden-ness.
Don’t worry about the grazing. I would say it was definitely job stress. I have done that too. Like today, I am not stressed much. But just keep feeling like having a sweet. I am generally not all that fond of sweet either. I had two small pieces already. Now planning to wait out the craving.
I agree with you about restaurant grade Indian food abroad. It is often very bad. I get irritated when people want to take me to Indian restaurants in US, for one thing they are bad, on the other, I would much rather have something new when I am on a different continent. So till some very good restaurants come up (one would think there would be some in Paris, if not anywhere else), I think trying to cook Indian at home is the best bet. It is very easy.
Thanks for your insight in the hiring process. I wasn’t going to say anything bad about this job. That is such bad taste. I was planning to think of the new responsibility and/or challenge I want in work which cannot be had in my current job.
But I agree I am not going to stress much.
lots of love,
iniya
December 21st, 2007 at 5:12 pm
Yes, good to reacquaint yourself with deserts. In the book Im reading (that you have) “FrenchWomenDon’tGetFat” I’m learning all about GivingIn to pleasure, often and consistantly, though the proportion of ‘often’ and ‘amount’ are out of my understanding at this stage. I’m going to start the recasting phase soon, and three or more months of paring back, well, we’ll see. When I fall into a weak spot, of which I’m sure there’ll be plenty, it won’t be a matter of forgiving, but more like a trip. What do we do when we trip? We just right ourselves in the very next reflexive step! We don’t stop and demand forgiveness of ourselves, demeaning our dignity and all of that, no, we continue in stride.
December 21st, 2007 at 6:17 pm
Congratulations on a successful test!
I’m totally a grazer whenever I’m feeling anxious, or tired, or bored, or, really, uncomfortable in any way. But it sounds like you kept the damage to a minimum, and that is an accomplishment. I so appreciate all of your honesty here, Round.
Oh, and I bought a box of Clementines last night. Five mintues after they were in the house, my kids were already into them. Yum.
December 21st, 2007 at 8:57 pm
I haven’t caught up on all the week’s entries yet, but it seems to be that this ‘dessert test’ was actually quite a sensible thing to do. I’ve also noticed that after a few times, if I’m not in a “must not eat - deprivation” mindset (and I try to avoid that like the plague!), desserts often seem very disappointing. I seriously find more pleasure now in a simple soy or fruits-flavoured yogurt than in apple pie, chocolate ice-cream or whatever. Most often, these are, as you wrote too, too sweet, and it’s disgusting more than appealing…
December 21st, 2007 at 9:35 pm
How empowering that dessert no longer has the hold over you that it once did. I would love to try this idea but I know I’m not in the proper frame of mind to actually stop when I don’t like something. When I reach that point, though, I will re-read these tests you have taken and try them. It sounds like a much healthier way to live.
December 22nd, 2007 at 1:59 am
This has been very interesting and given me much to think about. Not sure yet how I’m going to use what I’ve learned from reading this, but I’m sure I will once I spend some time thinking about it!
December 22nd, 2007 at 3:39 am
Good work on the dessert test. Once we actually get the taste for “clean” foods like fruit then the rest does seem too sweet. Clementines are great, aren’t they?
December 22nd, 2007 at 4:30 am
wow - great stuff!
I don’t think I would have made it….
December 22nd, 2007 at 6:28 am
Congrats on the dessert tests. I have to give myself permission to eat anything I want. It is when I think that certain things are off limits that I go off into binge-land. This is a good way to approach it.