From Mushy to Marathon

Men are stupid!!

Ian and I had discussed a while ago that when his daughter came down we would all do something together one day. We had said the park or the beach for a picnic but as the forecast is atrocious, a change of plan was in order. The other night we were discussing it on msn, or at least I was trying to - whenver I suggested something he just didn’t reply and eventually he disappeared altogether without a word.

However he texted me next day saying his computer had been on go slow and eventually died altogether -fair enough.

We didn’t get to chat last night but this morning he texted me saying they had had a nice time at the funfair yesterday and they were going swimming today and what were my plans. I thought - ooh, he’s going to invite us to go with him - so I texted him back saying we had no plans, and waited for the text.

Nothing was forthcoming so I thought - hmm!

After a while I thought - oh, he wasn’t going to invite us after all - he was just making conversation. I was a bit miffed, but I texted him suggesting what I was going to suggest anyway - that on Wednesday if he hadn’t got plans, we could go to a kids play place in the afternoon and maybe he would like to come round for eat afterwards. he texted me asking what kind of place was - I told him - and then nothing!!

I was getting a bit annoyed at this point - I wondered what the heck was going on. I thought perhaps his daughter didn’t want to meet us, that she wanted him to herself, which was OK - but I just needed to know.

So, I texted him again saying “Look, I don’t want to muscle in on your time together. if you don’t want to do something together that’s ok - just let me know.”

In the past I have had clinginess issues and I tend to be paranoid about men - so with this one I have really trried to play it cool and just go with the flow and let him take the lead, but I was beginning to get pissed off.

Anyway, he texted me back saying he had to check with her mum - apparently she was funny about her meeting new people and he would let me know shortly.

Which is fine! All he had to do was say.

But - knowing in advance that she felt this way, and knowing that we had discussed doing something together, why on earth didn’t he run it past her before.

AND - he never texted me back all yesterday OR today.

Conclusion: men are stupid.

(I hope he isn’t reading this!)