I am too happy
Okay, this will sound crazy to you. But anyway, I have to share this.
Often in arranged marriages, a bride is chosen for the groom by his parents and vice versa. In most families, generally both sets of parents make the prospective bride and groom meet and the couple decides whether they want to go ahead. Some take some time and some don’t.
When R and I broke off, you all know how he got married immediately. We had a big office party this last weekend. I knew R would come with his wife. I wasn’t sure how I would react to that. For one thing, I didn’t want to fly off the handle in front of so many people. Also after lots of thoughts for long time now, I decided not to tell his wife about me. She has done nothing, why ruin her happiness?
Anyway, so I was seeing the party photographs today. I saw his wife’s photo. And I haven’t stopped grinning. You know, I always knew he would never get a woman more funny, intelligent and kind than me. Neither with my education and money, because of his background. But I always thought he would get a much better looking woman than me. If for nothing else then because almost everybody looks better than me. But can you believe it? I am 1000 times prettier and sexier than her. She is awfully ugly (I am sorry). She looks like a frozen skeleton from Sudan. I couldn’t believe that anyone can be that thin and outside of a hospital. Her features are quite bad too. Even though I shouldn’t be so gleeful, but there is no intelligence on her face. I think her only qualification is that she is from the same stupid caste as he is. Her neck looked like a twig really. This is one time, I saw a thin person and not a for moment I wanted to be like her.
I can’t believe how his parents chose her for him. Because R always told his parents would not find me pretty enough. And now they have got this specimen from hell. I know how vain R is. I cant believe why he agreed to marry her. Deep down (she is not more than two inched wide anywhere) she may be good and all that (her face didn’t say so), but R is too shallow for any “deep down” stuff. I used to get long lectures about how I should improve my appearance and now this. God!!! I have lost nothing. He has lost everything. He can keep a poker face in public, but I know everyday of his life, he will compare her with me and she will be wanting in every single way. It’s not even six months of marriage for him, we will see how long the poker face stays.
I kept on thinking how he could buy his car with money from me as loan and marry someone else within three months after that and get away with it and get to be happy after manipulating my emotions so badly. But who knew the universe has acted already. His parents hated me but they have taken done my job way better than I ever could have. I never imagined and hoped that this could happen. That girl is so much less than me in every possible way. I can’t believe it. THANK YOU GOD!!!! Also for not giving me such life-ruining parents. All fun of his life was those two years with me. Now he has perpetual hell in front of him. Though the girl may not live all that long, seeing how horribly thin she is. She must be sick in some way.
Okay! deep breath. I guess, I should now put a cap on my bitchiness. You know, my full name is Indrani. That means Queen of Heaven. After seeing her, I really thought I AM queen of heaven compared to her. you know R never showed his marriage photos to any of us at work. Now I know why. I had thought he wanted to spare my feelings. But now I know that he had long back realized how his fate has backfired.
I know it is very shallow of me to be so happy. But what the hell!!! Thank you soooooo much all of you for being here with me and cheering me on my darkest time. Now I feel not cheated at all, I can clearly see the biggest loser. Oh sweet sweet revenge.
Lots of love to all of you!
I am still a little too euphoric. ![]()
Jan said,
August 14, 2008 @ 6:00 pm
Indrani—what a gorgeous, gorgeous name, with an equally beautiful meaning!!!!
Finally—something about the mess with the hateful R to give you a giggle!!!! Just goes to show “what goes around, comes around” and he’s had his fate handed to him…….and it is a worse fate than you could have planned—for such a vain man to have such a wife as you have described.
Smile, Ini, smile!!!!
rubyjean said,
August 15, 2008 @ 9:59 am
Don’t worry about being b****y! Sometimes you just have to tell it like it is. My mom has a wonderful gift - she is able to tell it like it is no matter what. She’s dead straight (but not rude) and for some reason, her dark observations crack me up (make me giggle). So I actually sat here smiling as I was reading your post, feeling really really good for you, too! I would have felt the same way.
And Ini, I have seen a couple of photos of you. You are a pretty woman. Your face looks clear and you have lovely features and hair and you convey and impression of intelligence and kindness. What’s not to love.
Wonder why R.’s parents didn’t like you? The only thing I can think of is that they realised you were “above” him and they didn’t want to see their son as an inferior to you - or see themselves that way.
Love and Hugs, RubyJean
tjnorth said,
August 16, 2008 @ 3:06 am
I know how you feel. I had a very bad experience with a man a few years ago that also included a large amount of money (loaned from me to him, never to be seen again). A few months after we split I saw him with another woman on the street, and I thought if that’s the best he can do after me he is one sorry sucker. Made me feel good for weeks.
soclose said,
August 16, 2008 @ 12:59 pm
Indrani—-what a beautiful name, Ini!!!!! So glad you finally got a giggle out of the whole mess with the hateful R—-see, what goes around, comes around and that vain man is going to be stuck for the rest of his life with someone YOU know you are better than!!!!
Keep smilin’ our beautiful Queen of Heaven!!!
anngirl said,
August 16, 2008 @ 10:45 pm
Now the sun is shining and the road is at your feet….
Leave the past behind and join your bright future Ini
xoxoxoxoxo
islandgrl said,
August 17, 2008 @ 4:06 am
See we all knew you were beautiful and special. Now you know it too
I love your name…Indrani….so exotic
The world is open to you now girl…go for it.
xoxoxo
feathers said,
August 18, 2008 @ 8:35 pm
Ah, Indrani, the sweet taste of success. It is pure schadenfreude to know that R will suffer every day of his married life, and pure kharma to know that you have avoided a really nasty sounding set of in-laws.
lodyangel said,
August 18, 2008 @ 10:07 pm
Tee hee! I am giggling with you girl! I am so happy that he ended up with a DOG! If I were you I would forget he exists your last few weeks at work. Dress to the nines everyday, laugh a little louder, ignore him, and know the whole time that YOU won. He may have gotten married but he lost when he didn’t marry you. There is someone incredibly right for you out there. Rejoice in knowing that you will find him and you won’t be stuck with a weak-minded man who can be manipulated by his parents.
You are beautiful, gorgeous, and a wonderful human being. Believe in yourself!
Your name is beautiful. You are queen of the world!
Bobbie said,
August 19, 2008 @ 12:28 am
Inya
I laughed outloud when I read your description of R’s wife. You are so funny. And I could picture her immediately. I am glad that you finally got to see and to realize that you are good and you are so much better than R. He never deserved you and I think he always knew it. Giggle all you want. You deserve it. And thank you so much for the smile. I appreciate it.
Hugs, Bobbie